How Can I Change?
Q: How Can I Change?
A: My mind? My perspective? My limiting beliefs? When we talk about change, what are we actually talking about? Changing our hair, moving to a new town, changing our name, changing partners…many of us have exercised these ways to “change” up our current experience of life. Or maybe, if we just want to feel different, some reach for a drink, others buy something online, sext with a new prospect on Hinge, or just scroll through Instagram. These actions do not reflect or induce change. How do you define change and are you truly ready for it?
I remember a conversation with a friend a few years ago around this word. I thought we could utilize change to describe a project we were collaborating on at the time, stating the offering as a “catalyst for change.” She looked at me straight and reminded me that people don’t want to actually change and that the word was too confronting. It was clear to me at that moment that the people she was referring to weren’t my people, and that every part of me yearns for change. And we don’t all have to agree, and we don’t all have to want the same things. And we also don’t have to compromise who we are.
Change for me is the blood that pulses through my veins. Without it, I am lifeless. Why would I ever want to adhere to the status quo when everything is possible beyond it? And with this question, I am not disregarding the art of contentment. Contentment is a state of being that we can feel regardless of the circumstances of life. Rather, I am not satisfied. This dissatisfaction with “how things are” is a motivating factor in every moment.
I’d like to clarify something…when I speak of the status quo, I am speaking of my own mind as well as its reflection in the external world. My mind is a world within itself. Each of us lives in a world of our own making, fraught with an inherited belief system, self-imposed rules and regulations, oppression, climate chaos, educational history, environmental hazards, an ongoing soundtrack, movies of nostalgia or fantasy on repeat, and ridiculously boring dialogues that keep us numb and asleep. Not you? Ok, I will just speak for myself. I am very asleep.
If each of us lives in our own world, how can we co-create a new one? My personal life mission is to galvanize a community of inspired beings to co-create a new world together. What does this mean? Through the spark of fire within true inspiration we can change our minds and live into a truthful future. Why together? Co-creation is an act of keeping one another accountable, encouraging self-responsibility as a way of being, where love and faith reign, and where freedom rings in celebration.
Changing our minds, changing the way we think and feel is perhaps the most difficult task we could take on as a human being. It may also be the most important one above all and the only one in a direction toward a life where everything is possible. This requires time, a willingness to feel pain, a fervent desire for truth, a rigorous disposition, and the ability to move through the density with courage and efficiency. We will have to reconcile with our past to truly become present and the terrain can be daunting. No one will do this work for us, yet we can do this together in solidarity.
Actual change is a lived experience, not an overnight success. We are like stone of which a trickle of water flows over its smooth surface. Thousands of years later this stone is a canyon full of life, a rushing river, and trees dancing in the wind. We cannot see the transformation from stone to canyon overnight, we can only witness its change over time (from retrospection) in utter awe and reverence. We are invited to be as steadfast and surrendered as this stone, to keep showing up and allowing the waters to purify and transform us. Mother Nature is such a powerful teacher.
Free yourself from the false, liberate your soul’s mission, and change your mind for good.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
~ Leo Tolstoy
